From the Guidance Counselor's Office

Give talking to your parents a try...

Sometimes you may not feel comfortable sharing thoughts and feelings with your parents. That's okay. You don't have to tell them everything, but you know what? Your folks have been around the block a few more times than you, and believe it or not, can probably relate to a lot of the things that are on your mind.

If you have trouble putting into words what you want to say, try writing them a letter. Sometimes it is easier to get thoughts down that way. Then, you can give the letter to your folks, after you have reread it of course, and this should give you a good starting point for some discussion. Ask your parents if they will sit down with you; you need to discuss things and you want them to really listen. Tell them they are not to interject their thoughts until you are done telling them your story. Because that's just it; it's your story, not theirs and that's what you are sharing with them. 

When they do speak, if they begin to sound agitated, don't yell at them. Just speak softly. That will calm them down. If you yell, they will yell even louder and nothing will be accomplished. You might even say, nicely of course, "I cannot hear you when you yell." I know it's not easy to talk to parents sometimes. You are afraid of what they will think and how they will react, but try to remember that they do love you and want to know when something is bothering you and they will reach out to help you the best way that they can.

If you find you don't like their advice, you do not have to own it unless, of course, you know deep down that what they are telling you is right. But you will feel better after you have aired your concerns. Now they will be out on the table; you will be able to look at them, and hopefully be able to deal better with them with the help of your parents. Don't get me wrong. It is okay to share with your friends, too, but sometimes you need to let your parents in the loop and then hear what they have to say.  

More advice next month...but in the meantime, let me hear from you. My door is always open.